Since Valentine’s day is tomorrow, I wanted to talk a bit about what true love means to me. Valentine’s day is one of those holiday’s that makes you think about the romantic love you have in your life or the lack thereof. Until I met my husband, who I have been married to for almost 6 years, I never had a steady relationship that warranted the exchange of Valentine’s gifts. But every year, I could count on my mom giving me candy and a card. This tradition started in elementary school and still continues to this day. My mom’s focus was to emphasize that love is not just about romantic relationships, but all the people in your life who give you love. Naturally, when my husband and I had our first Valentine’s day, he went all out with gifts, flowers, and a dinner date. To his surprise, I wasn’t really that into Valentine’s DAY. While I obviously appreciated his efforts, to me love is more than just one day. I have never been caught up in the commercialism the holiday has turned into.
True love is an ongoing every day expression of admiration, self-sacrifice, joy, compromise, and affection.
I am always reminded of the Bible verse in 1 Corinthians 13
“Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. Love never dies. “
This is one of the most famous verses in history on the subject of love and while it was written many years ago, every line still holds true. Love never has and never will be about gifts or meals. And while there is nothing wrong with those things or doing those things as an expression of love, I hate to see other women get caught up in what they didn’t get and/or who they don’t have. Appreciate anyone in your life who loves you; whether it’s your family or friends. Make Valentine’s Day about a celebration of all the love you do have in your life.
Each year I tell my husband not to get me anything and I am actually one of the few women who mean that. All I truly want is his love and he has given that to me every day of the year. Of course gifts come throughout the year for birthdays, anniversary and various random reasons, but for Valentine’s Day I put a hold on all that and just focus on the LOVE. This year, whether you get an elaborate set of gifts or nothing at all, remind yourself of all the people in your life who love you and rest your head with a sense of joy because LOVE is the greatest gift ANYONE can give.